Why cannabis and sex?
This is a great question that I recently asked myself. When I reflect on my life the one constant is that the universe is pushing me where I need to go, and it has taken me down paths that I never thought I would be on.
When I was 25 I found out that I was living with HIV, it wasn’t due to too much partying, or sleeping with various people, don’t get me wrong, I was popular, but I was that guy who did “everything but” unless it was my partner. I’ve worked in HIV testing for 10 years and I can say that many people have that perspective, and guess what? It doesn’t work. I made myself available to a virus and I seroconverted, and that’s really okay. Yes, this was a time before PrEP, PeP and U=U (shit, I’m old, haha). I can now say I’m undetectable and it’s fine. My partner is negative and we have never had an issue or worry, because the science is there, undetectable DOES equal untrasnmittable. While this information is available now, it certainly wasn’t when I was younger. As matter of fact it was quite the opposite. First, I had to feel like an outcast in my community for being a queer identifying person, then I had to feel like a pariah in gay community. Thankfully, life gives a balance, I saw the worst of people, but the universe sent me a best friend and a mentor. Both of these amazing people taught my how to see life and myself differently. Once I was able to see, I was able to change. Change my views on life, sex and people. It was NOT an easy road, it was filled with many tears, but I was able to come through and have a life that was better than I ever imagined it could be. I had to define what sex means to me, hell, I even had to learn how to enjoy sex again, with fleeting partners and ones I cared for.
Now, back to cannabis. About a year ago my partner had back pain, me, being a massage therapist tried my best to work out the pain but it didn’t work. Finally, I brought him home some cannabis. Since high school I had only used it once before. So naturally, I thought it would be interesting to see what happened. It was magic, his pain was gone, we laughed, but what was so amazing to me was the sensation of touch. I was heightened when he touched me, and touching him felt new, sensual, fun and erotic. So, I decided to learn more. I had no idea cannabis was so amazing, it can help with anxiety, pain, sleep, stomach issues, it’s even an anti-cancer and in some cases can treat cancer. I don’t want to get too much into the science here, but basically your body is regulated by an endocannabinoid system which can be enhanced by cannabis.
I saw an article that said that 66% of Americans use some sort of prescription drug, and I get it. So many of us have something to work through and so many of us have a stigma around taking medication. Which we shouldn’t, we should be able to say “I’m feeling this” and be able to get help. Now, I don’t think cannabis is a cure all, but I now that if it can’t treat someone, it can usually (not always) improve the quality of life. If we are looking at sex, then maybe adding cannabis is the new peanut butter and jelly. Every person has different sexual concerns and different endocannabinoid systems. Which is why I love the idea of 8 weeks with a client. We can really learn their system, find chemovars and dosing that will elevate them. Too little and we won’t hit our goal, too much and we will see results that are not good. New studies are coming out showing that cannabis can intensity a woman’s orgasm, and the right amount in males can exchange their sexual experience.
Redefining my own sexual life was hard, looking back I wish I was using cannabis to help me reduce the anxiety, maybe it could have saved me a lot of trouble, but the past is the past and I can’t change it. Instead, I will be the person that I needed, and now, I can help someone in the present.